Dating should be fun but it is often hard work. To make it easier here are 10 dating tips every single person should know before dating!
If you are new to dating or not so new these simple dating tips will change your dating experience!
10 Dating Tips Everyone Should Know Before Dating
- Don’t pretend to be cool
We live in an age where people want to be chilled out and not be seen as hard work. So much so that they aren’t themselves or speak up for what they want when they meet someone new. Being the cool person who fits in with what someone else wants rarely works. In fact it is on the of the number one reasons relationships fail ! If you change after getting a commitment your partner is left confused, as you aren’t the person they fell for!The key is to be you. Don’t change who you are, be true to yourself and what you value. Don’t twist yourself like a pretzel to be what someone else wants. You will not be happy if you do. For example, if you want kids and they don’t – move along! If they don’t value the same things as you do the relationship will struggle to work. Please note we are talking about values and not interests.
- Ask for What you want
If you want a relationship, say so. Be upfront about the type of relationship you want – the other person will respect that and you will save a lot of time second guessing what ‘this’ is. Don’t accept a hook up if that isn’t what you want. Look at it this way don’t complain that you are in a casual relationship that is all about sex if that is what you said you were cool in the beginning. Of course remember you don’t have to stay in that situation either if it no longer makes you happy.
- Don’t be in a Hurry to get to the Destination
If have been clear about what you want in a relationship you need to relax and see where it goes. It is now time to work out if you are a good fit for each other. It is important to enjoy the moment rather than being eager to get to the end to that final commitment. It can be too easy to have an urgency to find out if this is going to be the relationship that you don’t enjoy the beginning, middle and end. It may feel hard but it will make all the difference. Remember actions speak louder than words – the person who wants to be with you will continually show that. For more information for girls read – 3 Simple Signs he is Into You!
- Don’t Fall in the the Tracksuit and Takeaway Phase too quickly
Go out on fun dates and get to know each other. There is plenty of time to sit and watch Netflix in your trackies while eating takeaway. You set the tone of how someone treats you and what you want. If someone suggests going too their house too early on say that you would prefer to go out. You only get one start to a relationship so make it fun.
- Don’t Make someone a priority when then don’t make you a Priority!
Don’t make someone your priority when you are not theirs! Someone can only treat you how you allow them to treat you – it is that simple. Accepting crumbs from someone who will only see you when it suits them will not make you happy. In fact, it wastes a lot of emotional energy on something that will not ultimately go anywhere. Know that you are worthwhile!
- Choose someone who Values Communication
In a relationship being able to freely communicate is the key to success. So choose a partner who values communication and can talk about how they feel. Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t even bother returning your texts!
- When you meet the Right person it will be easy
It can be too easy to get caught up in the drama of on and off relationships. These types of relationships can be exciting and addictive. However, the right relationship for you will be easy and will flow. You won’t need to analyse what that text meant and if they like you or not! You will know!
- Don’t stress about being single
If you stress too much about your relationship status you will come across as desperate and needy. It is also way too easy to make the wrong choices when you are in this state of mind. Take the time to enjoy your life, get out and about doing what you love. One meeting can change everything! Remember the person you are looking for is also looking for you.
- Breakups Suck but Can Teach you something
Every relationship can teach you something and be a way to grow and become the best version of yourself. Take the time to look at the lesson that person came into your life to teach you. Each relationship has a lesson that can be learnt, they allow you to find your what is important to you and what you need to feel in a relationship. Breakups are painful and a broken heart does hurt but this too shall pass.
- Don’t take Dating so Seriously
Change your approach to dating and you will change the results you get. Dating is a great way to learn about yourself and what works for you and what doesn’t. When you stop taking dating so seriously you are then able to have more fun. If you go to every date thinking ‘this could be the one’ it is a huge amount of pressure and you will come across quite differently. For example it will make you more uptight and cause you to be way more judgemental. Be curious instead! Remember when you are having fun you are much more attractive to the opposite sex!