First impressions count and you only have up to 7 seconds to make yours.
First impressions count when it comes to dating, in fact they are one of the keys to dating success. Singles in 2017 are more judgemental than ever before and make snap decisions based on that first impression.
You only get ONE chance to make a first impression – that is why it’s called a first impression!
It is time to stop saying – ‘take me as I am’ and time to put the best version of yourself forward. How you present yourself can be the difference between getting a date or not getting a date.
Only 3% of a first impression is made up of what you say. 97% is made up of body language, how you dress, and your confidence. So how you present yourself is CRUCIAL and something you have control over.
9 Tips to Improve your First Impression
- Body Language
Body language makes up part of the 97% of your first impression and is something you have control of. No-one likes a desperate single or a single that no-one else wants, therefore confidence is important. Body language is important as it will show your confidence. The key to confident body language is to stand up straight with good posture, make eye contact (without creepily staring), have open body language, don’t fidget or play with your hands.Amy Cuddy is a social psychologist and professor at Harvard. Amy conducted studies that found that your brain changes what it believes with the use of positive powerful body language. Amy’s research on body language found you can change other people’s perceptions — and perhaps your own body chemistry — simply by changing body positions. This is great news and something within your control. To find out more watch Amy Cuddy’s Ted Talk video on body language.
- How You Dress
How you dress matters when it comes to a first impression. Don’t dress for yourself or your friends, dress to make an impression and to impress the opposite sex. You wouldn’t go to a job interview without careful consideration of what you will wear; dating is no different. Believe it or not style doesn’t have to cost a lot of money. For specific advice for guys read 15 Tips to Look Sexier for the Opposite Sex and for specific advice for ladies read 15 Simple Tips, What to Wear for Women.
- Smiling/Making Eye Contact
Don’t under estimate the power of a smile and making eye contact. When you smile it makes you more ‘likeable’ and being likeable makes someone want to date you! So don’t forget to smile.
- Be Positive
Be positive in your conversation – don’t talk about how what went wrong in a previous relationship, how no-one wants to date you or that you have been single forever. Research shows that positive people create a good first impression.
- Tone of Voice
Tone of voice is very important when it comes to dating. It is important to focus on how you are saying, what you are saying. A monotone voice makes a poor first impression, whereas varying your tone with have the opposite effect. If you are not sure how you sound, record or video yourself and practice.
How you smell matters. The sense of smell is one of the most primal functions and one that you can’t block out. When you meet someone who smells good you might not consciously realise it but it counts to create a positive first impression.
Don’t feel you need to sell yourself. Listen – we all like people who listen to us and feel a connection to someone who truly listens to us. So it is time to stop thinking about what you are going to say next and listen instead.
- Be on Time
Being late never creates a good first impression.
- Be yourself
You are unique, truly one of a kind – you are amazing and you are good enough. So be the best version of yourself – when you are comfortable in your own skin it shows and creates a good impression. So take a deep breath and relax.