Connecting Perth Singles

When I found myself single again after many years of marriage and raising my wonderful (and now adult) children, I was surprised and dismayed by what I found on the Perth dating scene.  It seemed to be more difficult than ever to meet genuine singles in our city.  I decided that my new mission was to turn this situation around and started Dare2Date in 2011.

I founded Dare2Date in 2011 to help Perth men and women realise their dreams of meeting someone to share their lives with and we are proudly Western Australian.

Dare2Date gives you an easy way to meet singles, the old-school way – face-to-face!

I understand how hard it can be to look for love in Perth. Dare2Date’s purpose is to offer genuine opportunities for people to have fun, reduce the pressure of the singles scene and meet the partner of their dreams.

One question I’m often asked is “How on earth did you get started in all this?”

Great question! The first thing that comes to mind is insanity but that’s not it. For me, it is about making a real difference in the lives of singles out there.

I started off running events and quickly realised that for singles to be successful it was about more than just meeting the right person!

I am honest, straight- forward and part love fairy! Real love may not magically happen, yet it can be magic!

Most of all I am on a mission to get you to realise that you are not broken, messed up or even unlovable … and that you’re a pretty awesome person worthy of happiness, love and a beautiful relationship where you wake up feeling loved every. single. day.

I’m an internationally accredited Relationship Expert and certified coach. But more importantly?

I’ve been doing this for over a decade. I’m consumed with empowering singles just like you to be successful in love. I am obsessed with having bigger conversations about love, dating and relationships. The ones that change lives.

I have been where you are and not just in a vague, “Oh I get it,” way. But, I’ve seriously been where you are.

 Coming out of a marriage that I thought would last forever and wondering if I even believe in love anymore! I had always dreamt of my own happily ever after and it didn’t work out. I felt like a big fat failure because I failed at the one thing I truly wanted. How the hell did this happen and how could I let love in again?

… Let alone work out how to date after 20 years!?”

I Get YOU Because I Was YOU

Not only am I a sought-after coach for both men and women (an accredited relationship coach and professional certified coach).  I am regularly featured in the media as well as the founder of Perth’s Premier Dating Service Dare2Date.

But more importantly, I am also well-versed in the art of actually being single After a long marriage, I experienced the modern dating scene and it was a completely different world. Gosh, it even came with its own language that mostly described bad behaviour!  I was surprised by what I found.

When I was dating I managed to have fun (yes, it is possible), and get 2^nd dates most of the time! Yet I seemed to have a super skill to date the same type of man who didn’t work for me, or I could find any commitment-phobic man in a 500 km radius. Yet when I did find a great guy I would find a way to sabotage it, in the hope that he would love me regardless. You know I think deep down I wanted to prove I was worthwhile! Guess what, spoiler alert, they didn’t love me regardless.

After a massive amount of self-work, study, real-life experiences and research, I stopped doing all the self-sabotage and pushing good men away. I also cut through the crappy dating advice that is out there that doesn’t work! You know all the weird stuff that we’re told we should do. Instead, I put everything I had learned into practice, as well as learning how to love and accept me first. I know first-hand that it isn’t too late to live the life that you want even after 50 when I am no longer my youngest, or thinnest (why do we put so much value on that -cos I’ve found it doesn’t matter )!!

It’s never too late to have that love you imagined. 

MAYBE YOU…

Think it is just a matter of meeting that one right person. Yet, you can be on endless dating apps, go to events, go out all the time, could even hire a matchmaker but it won’t work if you don’t start with YOU.

I can hear you asking me, ‘How do I do this, Debbie? Don’t I just have to meet the right person and everything will just work out?’

 NOPE

It doesn’t! I know that you would like me to magically find your person. Or give you superficial advice so you can pretend you are the confident person who has it all together to win that person over or get your ex back, while underneath you are still doing the same stuff that doesn’t work. 

Because I know it goes so much deeper than the superficial stuff to make real change stick. This isn’t just about love and dating. This is about believing in yourself and learning how to have the self-awareness and tools to be more confident, deal with rejection, and be a lot more resilient when you are dating.

You will stop wasting time on people who can’t give you what you want and need. Instead of wasting years of your valuable time, you will be able to spot it straight away. So, you can walk away instead of being stuck in all that drama and emotional chaos. You’ll be able to teach people how to treat you because you actually REALLY know your worth.

Unfortunately, everything doesn’t fall magically into place when you meet someone new. Because you will still come will your own unique baggage and so will they!

The good news is that it all gets so much easier when you accept yourself, understand how to have a healthy relationship and be able to be vulnerable to people who are able to know how to love you.

Of course, it seems so much easier to go online and put the problem outside of yourself, but you already know that doesn’t get the results YOU want.

No one teaches us this stuff in school. So, you aren’t alone in not knowing how. But if you want an awesome relationship it’s time to learn how.  This includes how to have healthy boundaries and the tough conversations that are always a reality in any relationship. This will save you from being yet another divorce statistic!

I’m here to help you do just that

Together, we’re going to pinpoint the beliefs that are sabotaging your happiness and relationships —and keep you accountable to get results.

Here’s the boring qualification stuff, cos I know that matters too! I am continually learning the latest advances in how the brain works, especially when it comes to love, so I can give you cutting-edge tools. My unique approach applies behavioural science, neuroscience, and attraction strategies that will give you everything you need. I am a Certified Practitioner in Coaching, Completed Level 1 and 2 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy, a Master Neuro-Linguistic Programming Coach, a Certified Master mBIT Coach (Europe) and a Certified Matchmaker with the Matchmakers Institute in New York.

Fun Facts About Me:

• My love of travel started at 7! Since my divorce, I have travelled to 35 countries and loved every moment.
• Love to learn and find solutions.
• Enjoyed jumping out of a plane – made me feel alive.
• I Love Brussel sprouts, cheese and cucumber sandwiches (there is a cool story about why) and food in general.
• Used to work in an occupation no one liked, but in a strange way, it perfectly prepared me for what I do now. Can you guess what it was?
• I love live music -this started young with my parents loving to go out. I even remember my first concert, I was lucky enough for it to be Abba!
• Have a sweet tooth – give me a packet of lollies or a block of chocolate and I would eat it all! In fact, if you asked me, ‘If I had to give up coffee or chocolate?’ The answer would always be coffee.
• I genuinely enjoy meeting new people and can quickly take small talk into an awesome conversation. I love a mix of intelligent conversations and light-hearted banter.

IF YOU KEEP DOING THE SAME THING – NOTHING WILL CHANGE.

My Promise

I am an expert in the area of dating and relationships and above all, professional and caring about my clients.  My priority is the safety and happiness of my great customers.

I promise to make it as easy and stress-free as possible for Perth singles to make genuine connections, in a safe and fun environment.