Are you still single? Do you hate when people ask –‘Why is someone like you still single’?! Now you may be single by choice or you may be making one of these common mistakes.
- Stuck in a Pattern. If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always gotten. If you always do the same things and go to the same places the changes of meeting new and interesting people are low. Try different things while you are single; use the time to do the things that you have always wanted to try. This way you are likely to meet people with similar interests. Attempt to do something new each week – do something that scares you!
- You give of f..ck off vibes and are not open to talking to people.
- You don’t go out. Spending time in front of the telly will not help you meet anyone. The person of your dreams is not going to magically appear!! Again just try getting out, you can meet someone anywhere.
- Waiting for fate to provide your partner.
- Always surrounded by people. When you go out you are always surrounded by a group of friends – this makes it difficult for the opposite sex to approach you.
- You’ve given up. You have given up on the idea that you will ever meet anyone and you have also given up looking your best. It is not expensive to look you r best, simple things like smiling and standing up straight do wonders. Always smell good (no point in having unopened perfume or saving the perfume for a special occasion), do your hair and dress well.
- You’re shallow and find fault with everyone – remember Shallow Hal?
- Unrealistic expectations. I believe that everyone should know what they are looking for but I am not a believer in and in-depth list where you will only date someone who is 6ft 6in who owns a boat. By narrowing your parameters too much you may be single for an awful long time.
- Afraid of Commitment. A fear of commitment will keep you single or in relationships that are destined to go nowhere.
- Negative. Negative people are not attractive to anyone, including themselves.
- Not moved on. To have a healthy relationship you will need to have let go of the past and not consistently focusing on a past failed relationship.
- Tell people too much. Often the older we are the more we want to tell people who we are warts and all. However, it is much better to give someone a chance to like you first. Faults can be scary and off putting but once we know and like someone they are less likely to bother/scare or put us off.
- Desperate. You are desperate – desperate people are not attractive and actually end up repelling people.
- You are just not ready!
