Will we be dating differently post isolife?
Isolife made dating difficult, in fact, you weren’t able to date how you have before.
Now that pubs, cafés and restaurants are reopening around the country, people will be returning to face to face dating. But how will we date in the post-COVID, post isolife world?
What happens if your date turns up in a face mask and surgical gloves, carrying a bottle of hand sanitiser? What about that first awkward handshake or peck on the cheek?
Or will it be straight back to back to pre-pandemic mating rituals?
The answer is there will be new rules to follow post isolife when it comes to dating, just like any other area of life. And let’s face it, no-one really likes that awkward handshake or peck on the cheek anyhow!
In fact, I would start off by saying that I don’t believe the handshake is something that you should do on a date! It is too business-like!
Isolife has changed dating and some of the changes are good and here to stay.
What are you really looking for?
Isolife has stripped away our busyness and many of our distractions. When you were busy it is easy to feel like you don’t want or need a relationship. Yet when you are living alone without your usual social interactions you might realise just how much you do want and need one. Skin hunger and the need for connection has become a real thing and loneliness is at an all-time high.
Humans aren’t meant to be alone.
Isolife has highlighted that! In fact, isolife has highlighted the benefits of being in a relationship.
I want you to think about what those benefits are for you? Think about what the rewards are of being in a relationship rather than the superficial stuff.
I am talking about things like love, support, financial security, someone who has your back, someone to share your day with, fun, travel, children, sex. Take a moment to make your own list.
Be clear about what you want, it will make meeting the right person so much easier.
Date Differently Post Isolife
Pre COVID-19 people were in a rush to meet as soon as possible. Singles ended up going on so many bad dates that they were disheartened. Many of you have felt heartbroken or been badly treated. Many of those situations happened because there was little or no communication about what each person was looking for.
Slowing things down, connecting with intention (whatever yours is) and checking in with yourself allows you to avoid the bad side of dating and made the good side even better.
The great thing is that isolife has changed the way we date. It is good to know there are some benefits of Covid-19! In the past, singles would rush to meet in person, yet that wasn’t possible in isolife! During isolife life, if you chose to date you had to chat via message, phone or video and it gave you the chance to build a connection. This is the change that dating needed.
This is a change we need to keep!
Instead of going on endless blind dates with people you don’t know hoping it will work it is time to date differently. It is all about building a connection first.
You can build that connection through a phone call and a virtual video date before meeting in person. The KEY is to have a video date! Phone calls can be hard to gauge if you will end up liking the person but the video date isn’t. In fact, video dates are game-changers.
When you follow this way of dating you won’t have ANY bad dates as you have already built a real connection.
The benefits of doing this:
- You get to see what the person is like on a video chat. It gives you a much better feel for who the person is. You also get a sneak peek into their lives through the video by seeing where they live, etc. The more often you chat/connect, the more you will find out about them.
- Take the time to find out if they are looking for the same type of relationship as you are.
- Connection is sexy! Believe it or not, connection builds and ignites sexual chemistry. Using video chat allows that chemistry to slowly build up. It allows you to have space/time for great communication, without getting distracted by sex.
- It’s cost-effective and eliminates issues about money on that awkward first date. It removes the difficult question of who pays. I know men get tired of paying for first dates that don’t go anywhere and women don’t want to feel ‘obligated’ to the man who paid for them. It allows things to evolve naturally without navigating the minefield of expectations as there are so many unspoken rules!
- You have time to make sure they meet your “What am I looking for?” list. Intense chemistry can and does make your list go out the window. This allows you to see how things are panning out and if this is the kind of person/relationship you are looking for.
- You could discover they aren’t for you. This is not a failure, it is just letting you be more in tune with the type of person who does work for you. The whole point of dating is finding that person who is the right fit for you.
- When you have to wait to meet someone it makes dating exciting rather than the second job you don’t have time for. Anticipation is hot! That anticipation of creating a connection with someone who makes you smile, who you can’t way to meet, who excites you and gives you butterflies is the new sexy! Having to wait a while before you meet in person builds that anticipation and makes meeting electric.
Simply slow things down and get to know someone.
Here’s to your success and remember if you want some help achieving your dating goals a Relationship Coach is the perfect person to help you do that. Simply send me an email debbie@Dare2Date.com.au and we can set a time to chat.