Avoid a Situationship so you Find Love THIS Year!
A situationship could be the reason you haven’t found love and you’re not alone!
Dating app Hinge has found that 34% of users have found themselves trapped in a situationship. A situationship is not a committed relationship but it is more than a friendship.
A situationship is fine, if that is what you are looking for.
However, the dreaded situationship is a minefield when you want a relationship. It leaves you questioning are you a thing, will things take off or are you doomed to stay in limbo only to be ghosted down the trap.
It’s exhausting, totally confusing, time-consuming and time wasting! It is one of the biggest reasons attractive singles miss out on the relationship and love they really want!
So, what should you do if you want no part in a situationship?
Here is How to Avoid the Situationship
Let’s look at how you can totally avoid the situationship or stop it in it’s tracks.
1. Be Clear
Make it clear in the beginning that you are looking for a relationship! Yes it may feel vulnerable but it is much easier to have the chat at the beginning than down the track when feelings are involved.
If you are on a dating app, you get the opportunity to say what you are looking for in specific fields. Make sure you are clear and say relationship, if that is what you are looking for.
However, one word of warning don’t just take what other people say on their profile on face value. You will need to ask the question as well. Why? Because people can/do change their mind and forget what field they filled in when they first put their profile up. Many people come back to the same dating profile they have used for years.
On your profile make it clear what you are looking for. If for example, you just want someone to hang out with then say that. If you are looking to go out and explore the wine or food scene with come for company, say that. It saves people making assumptions and wasting time.
When you are clear, it cuts out the dating confusion and anxiety.
2. Same Page
Going on dates with someone is no guarantee that you will be a good match for each other. The actual dates are how you find out. What you do want to know is that you are on the same page, heading in the same direction to a relationship. You need to be clear about that to avoid the situationship! If they say they want to be casual and you want a relationship, it is simple wish them luck and say goodbye.
3. Things Can Change
Dating someone is not agreeing to commit to someone. How you feel can change and it is important to be clear and transparent about how you feel. Communication is the key to break through the confusion. However, it is essential to listen to what the other person is saying to you and not just hear what you want to hear.
4. How to Get Free of A Situationship
I see so many singles, particularly women, hoping that the other person will see how great they are and choose to be in a committed relationship with them. But it never happens. It wastes their time, their energy and even their future dreams.
If you are in this situation, I recommend you have an honest conversation about what you both want. If the other person tells you they are happy with how things are, that is exactly what they mean! Of course, they would like to enjoy all the benefits of a relationship without the commitment if you let them.
Believe what they are telling you and if you are looking for a real commitment, then it is time to walk away! I know that it is tough but in the long run you will be glad you took that step.
If you are struggling to get free of a situationship or with dating working with an expert can help. in general book a free discovery call! Or alternatively the the Online Course, How to Choose the Best Match for You can give the the tools you need to make sure you choose the best fit for you and not end up in another situationship.
Debbie Rivers – Relationship Expert