I can’t believe how quickly this year has passed!
Because time flies, I want to ask you the question – Are you any closer to finding love, a relationship or what you are looking for than you were a year ago?
If you answered no then it is time to take action and make 2017 the year dreams come true!
By taking deliberate action.
Instead of leaving your love life to chance it is time to take deliberate action. In most areas of our life we realise that if we want to get what we are looking for we need to take steps to achieve it. If you are looking for the right job – you will get the training and skills needed to get the job. However, it is funny how in the area of love we expect it to magically happen. You may believe you will lock eyes, fall in love and live happily ever after. But in real life this doesn’t happen as often as you might wish for!
With this in mind it is time to create your life – to LIVE LIFE by DESIGN and not by chance.
It is time to be clear. You don’t create the life you want by thinking about what you don’t want.
The end of the year is the perfect time to ask yourself some questions.
It is time to conduct an annual review of your year and look at what has worked and what hasn’t. Then put together an action plan for next year to achieve the results you are looking for.
‘The unexamined life is not worth living’ Socrates
It is important to write down what you want – this commits both your conscious and subconscious minds to achieving it.
Look at what worked and what didn’t work in 2016. Identify the challenges you faced. What lessons did you learn about yourself, your relationships and the opposite sex. What would you have done better? How did your fear of failure hold you back? What can you do differently in 2017 to move towards love or anything you desire?
- DREAM OF WHAT YOU WANT
You don’t get what you want by focusing on what you don’t want. So it is time to have a clear picture of what you want. I am not talking about physical characteristics as these are just superficial and don’t necessarily make you happy. Have you ever noticed how the good looking person becomes less good looking when really know then and the less good looking person can become way more attractive. You could meet the hot guy or girl who doesn’t make you feel great – this will not work. This is why it is imperative to imagine how you want to feel. This is a key! Remember to be what you want to attract as like attracts like! Setting goals in the area of love is important. Goals are what take us forward in life; they are the oxygen to our dreams.
If you aim at nothing, you will hit it every time. -Zig Ziglar
- ACTION PLAN
Self document to keep you on track. It helps to write a letter to yourself from one year in the future where your life looks exactly how you want it to be (this does not have to be limited to love). But as much details and feeling into as possible to drive you. I have included a brief example –
Julie, you won’t believe how happy you are at this time next year you met the most amazing person. He makes you feel truly loved for who you are for the first time. He is supportive, strong but kind and makes you laugh until it hurts. I can tell you love really does make you feel happier – there is seriously nothing to be scared of!
Then look at the steps you will need to take to get there. Make that action plan. It is important not to sit at home waiting for someone to complete you – go out and do all the things you have always wanted to do. Live a full life! This will make you more attractive to the opposite sex.
Create a ritual on a certain day of the week where you look at the previous week. Review what you did, accomplished and still need to do. Then look at what you need to focus on for the coming week. This will keep you on track.
- WRITE CHALLENGES AND BRAIN DUMP
Write down nagging concerns, things that piss you off, concerns and issues. This is a brain dump and allows you to release the negative emotions and feelings. It is normal to feel frustrated – the difference is what you do with it. When you express and dump this informtion you can release it and not dwell on it. It will free up your mind to be more creative to enable you to work at your challenges, examine them and dream up solutions.
This works as it will help you to focus on creating the life you have imagined throughout 2017. Remember this process is not limited to love!
If this feels overwhelming I have any easy solution ofr you – Dare2Date coaching. We will put in place a personalised program to support you in achieving your goals, working though your blocks, limiting believes, dating challenges and enable you to create the life you have always imagined.